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Have you ever felt anger toward someone? Has this anger ever turned to hate? even for a short time? Jesus said "Love your enemies" In the Epistles, we are told to forgive one another. But in the gospels, Jesus said the same thing with more authority. He said it with a knowledge of the consequences. He didn't just say "forgive". He told what would happen if we didn't forgive. So if you ask "why should I forgive someone who wronged me?", Jesus lays it out pretty plain. In the Lords Prayer (Matthew 6:8-13) it says "...forgive us our debts[sins], as we forgive our debtors [those who have sinned against us]...". In other words: "...forgive us our wrongs, in the same manner as we forgive those who have wronged us..." In Matthew 6:14, right after Jesus told the disciples how to pray (the Lords Prayer), He elaborated on the idea of forgiveness. He told them "For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses". This is saying that we can exit (die in) this life without our sins being forgiven. Can this happen with a Christian? I would say so. Christians also refuse to forgive others sometimes. In Revelation 3:5, near the end of the letter to Sardis, the Lord says, "He that overcometh, the same shall be clothed in white raiment; and I will not blot out his name out of the book of life, but I will confess his name before my Father, and before his angels." Where the Lord says, "I will not blot out his name out of the Book of Life", it must be that the name had to be in the Book of Life to begin with. So the person was already saved at this point. It was after they were saved that their name was to be blotted out of the Book of Life. Matthew 18:21-35 NKJV 21 Then Peter came to Him and said, "Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?" 22 Jesus said to him, "I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven. 23 Therefore the kingdom of heaven is like a certain king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. 24 And when he had begun to settle accounts, one was brought to him who owed him ten thousand talents. 25 But as he was not able to pay, his master commanded that he be sold, with his wife and children and all that he had, and that payment be made. 26 The servant therefore fell down before him, saying, 'Master, have patience with me, and I will pay you all.' 27 Then the master of that servant was moved with compassion, released him, and forgave him the debt. 28 "But that servant went out and found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii; and he laid hands on him and took him by the throat, saying, 'Pay me what you owe!' 29 So his fellow servant fell down at his feet and begged him, saying, 'Have patience with me, and I will pay you all.' 30 And he would not, but went and threw him into prison till he should pay the debt. 31 So when his fellow servants saw what had been done, they were very grieved, and came and told their master all that had been done. 32 Then his master, after he had called him, said to him, 'You wicked servant! I forgave you all that debt because you begged me. 33 Should you not also have had compassion on your fellow servant, just as I had pity on you?' 34 And his master was angry, and delivered him to the torturers until he should pay all that was due to him. 35 "So My heavenly Father also will do to you if each of you, from his heart, does not forgive his brother 7his trespasses."
The Huge Debt - 10,000 talants
In the above (Matthew 18:21-34) Jesus gave an illustration of heaven. In it, a man was forgiven a huge debt just because he asked his master. His master forgave him the whole debt. But when he went out and refused to forgive a small debt owed to him, his master then required full payment for his debt - the one he had previously been forgiven for! After the illustration, Jesus said, "So My heavenly Father also will do to you, if each of you, from his heart, does not forgive his brother his trespasses." What's this saying? It seems to be saying that the Lord can UN-forgive us our sins. That is, if we die with unforgivness on our hearts, even those sins that we have been forgiven for are added to our debt to be paid. THIS IS NOT A GOOD STATE TO BE IN!!! Being as this is an illustration of what heaven is like, (as Jesus said in v.23) it would appear that if we do not forgive others their sins against us, then payment for OUR sins will still be required of us - that is, they will NOT be paid for by Jesus. The fact that Jesus said "from his heart", says that it is not enough to just say "I forgive you" to one another, but to really mean it - that is, mean it from our hearts. Does it say that the person who offended us must ask for forgiveness? Many times it's easier to forgive someone if they have admitted their guilt. But what about times whey they don't admit that they were wrong? Or what about something that they are doing that offends you and they see nothing wrong with it? Should we forgive them for that? Yes! "But you don't understand . . . . . ." You are correct. I don't understand. But Jesus does. In fact He already paid for the exact sin that you are holding against that other person. Even though the other person committed the sin, we also sin if we hold unforgiveness in our hearts. Jesus was killed and paid the penalty for all the sins of the world - past, present and future. He suffered on the cross. He suffered the wrath of God to pay the penalty for my sins. He overcame death because it could not hold him. He committed no sin, so death couldn't hold him. He didn't have to die for our sins. He still would have been the Son of God. But He loved us so much that He was willing to die on the cross and be forsaken by God the Father. He loved the person that we cannot forgive so much that He died on the cross for them also. Can't we even forgive them? In the parable above, Jesus told us to forgive others their sin(s) against us. Not to do so is disobedience to God. Disobedience is sin. How can we go to heaven while still holding onto sin. We can't. Either we get rid of the sin (by forgiving the other person or persons and asking Jesus' forgiveness for holding onto it) or we don't go to heaven. It's that simple. You may say, "But I've always been taught that once our sins are forgiven they'll never be brought up again." Ezikiel 18: 24 "But if a righteous man turns from his righteousness and commits sin and does the same detestable things the wicked man does, will he live? None of the righteous things he has done will be remembered. Because of the unfaithfulness he is guilty of and because of the sins he has committed, he will die. (NIV)
To be sure, Jesus Christ DID die and pay the penalty for ALL the sins of the world. But just because He paid for them all doesn't mean that all will be forgiven for committing them. Why should we forgive? Mark 11:25 says that "if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses. But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father in heaven forgive your trespasses." Luke 6:37 Jesus said "Therefore be merciful, as your Father also is merciful. Judge not, and you shall not be judged. Condemn not, and you shall not be condemned. Forgive, and you shall be forgiven." [ this insinuates that: We can be in a state where we will be judged. We can be in a state where we will be condemned. We can be in a state where we will not be forgiven.] So I should forgive others because I won't be forgiven for my sins if I don't. Who should I forgive? "If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him. 4 If he sins against you seven times in a day, and seven times comes back to you and says, 'I repent,' forgive him." (Luke 17:3b-4) So we are to forgive our brothers - fellow human beings. How do I go about forgiving another person?
What are the consequences of unforgiveness
The question arises: "WHAT HAPPENS WHEN WE DIE IF OUR SINS ARE NOT FORGIVEN?"
Somebody has to pay for them. If Jesus won't (because we won't forgive one who sinned against us) then who is left to pay for them? Us.
The illustration in Matthew 18:21-35 (where the master UN-forgave his servant his debt because the servant didn't forgive a one who owed a debt to him) seems to be saying that if we have unforgiveness on our hearts when we die (at the time of judgment) then we will be required to pay the debt of our own sins. This alone will keep us out of heaven - because we can never repay the debt of our sins. Matthew 9:4-6 (NIV) This seems to insinuate that saying "Your sins are forgiven you" and "Arise and walk" are synonymous with each other in His eyes. Does this mean that in order to be healed that we need our sins forgiven? Jesus said, "Your sins are forgiven you" first - which insinuated that He was healed (if they are synonymous). If He said "Arise and walk" first, it would appear that the man was already forgiven for his sins. This would sure explain a lot of sickness in the world. It also would explain the importance of forgiveness in the plan of salvation. What about forgiving ourselves? When Jesus was eating at one of the Pharisee's houses (Luke 7:36+), a "woman in the city who was a sinner" stood at Jesus' feet as He was eating and washed His feet. She was crying as she did this. I believe that she was a prostitute, and that she didn't really want that kind of a life and that she felt really bad about herself. I really don't know why she felt the need to wash Jesus' feet, but I think she did want to be forgiven by Him. He spoke to her in love. He told her that He knew she had committed many sins, and He also told her that her sins are forgiven. Can you really imagine that? She was probably carrying the load of guilt, which amounted to not forgiving herself, for quite some time. And then Jesus told her that her sins are forgiven. Wow! She may not really have known who Jesus was, but at least another person cared for her and believed in her - that she was worth something! The whole load of self-guilt was lifted from her as Jesus told her that her sins are forgiven! We should keep in mind, however, that we may not be able to forgive - by ourselves. When that's the case, as it is in most cases, we need to ask for God's help. I will give a personal illustration. I did forgive the person - even as they were saying the things to me. However, it kept coming back to me and I felt that I was wronged and that I had a "right" to feel angry, and that the problem was all the other persons fault. If it was the other persons fault, I could feel angry, right? That's the way I felt. This went on for quite some time. I did turn it over to the Lord several times, but then I would take it back. I would feel angry at the other person. We finally had a talk (the other person & I) and then it was better. We've had another talk about it since also. But had I kept the bitterness and anger I could never have forgiven that person. I gave the bitterness & anger over to the Lord. I did it several times too. But during that time, my spiritual growth was ziltch. In another instance, I did something that I was really angry with myself about. In it, there were a few people that did things to me that I felt were "wrong". Within a short time - about 6 months - I forgave them all. But I still felt bad about myself. In talking to another Christian (referred to earlier) they remarked that "Jesus forgave you, why can't you forgive yourself?" I must have looked strange. I had never heard of such a thing. I really didn't know that I could forgive myself. But I did after that. And things started to get better. I prayed, "Lord, I forgive me for (the sin). I am sorry I did such a thing and I turn it over to you Lord. I know that you have already forgiven me, but I find it hard to forgive myself. I do so now."
Many people do not realize that they can forgive themselves - the same as I did. And they walk around with UN-forgiveness on their hearts. During the war in Viet Nam or Iraq some of our soldiers did things that they, never in 1000 years, would do here in the U.S. And now that they're back in the U.S. they don't want to talk about those things, and they can not bear the thought of forgiving themselves for some of the things that they did. They are walking around with a tremendous load of guilt on their shoulders. Or they don't know that they can forgive themselves. Jesus said that we would be forgiven just for the asking. If Jesus forgave us, what are we doing holding onto the thing that He already paid the penalty for? Do we think we're better then Him? No. We aren't. Even the grossest things can be forgiven us. So we should also forgive ourselves for having committed them. Is it possible to forgive God?
How do I know if I have forgiven the other person(s)?
Forgiveness is a matter of the will. We have to decide to forgive (others or ourselves) before the feelings say so. The willingness to forgive comes first and the feelings will follow. If we continue to wait to forgive until the feelings say it's no longer an issue, then it may be too late. |
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We can't even imagine the tremendous suffering that Jesus endured on the cross for us. God, the creator of all mankind, the God of all creation, targeted Jesus Christ and punished Him for all the sins of everybody in the world - from the past, the present and the future. Because all of us are sinners. But, because He paid the penalty for us, we still have to accept the fact that He did this for us and desire to have Him (Jesus Christ) live inside us. If we don't, then we will still have to pay the penalty for them ourselves. It's kind of like us receiving a pardon (for our sins). If we don't present the pardon to the warden, then we are still in prison.
The pardon will do us no good unless we accept it and present it to the warden for our release. For this reason, it can be seen that forgiveness is one of the biggest issues of the whole Bible. God is willing to forgive us for every sin we've ever committed - because Jesus suffered the punishment (for these sins) in our place. The whole Bible says this in many ways and is one of the main underlying themes throughout the Bible. Without forgiveness we would be sunk - we would have no future beyond this life. But Jesus made it possible for us to have the weight of all our sins lifted from us. Our slate can be wiped clean. In order for our slate to be wiped clean, we have to accept the fact that Jesus Christ died and suffered in our place. He was punished for the sins that we committed. He didn't commit any sins, but we did. And chances are that we will again. These are the sins that He suffered for on the cross. Ask Jesus Christ into your heart today. Acknowledge that you are a sinner and that Jesus already paid the penalty for those sins. He will wash away your guilt and wipe your slate clean.
What must I do to be saved (from eternal damnation)? |
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